I have been down for Lil’ Kim – rap veteran, fashion icon, sex goddess – most of my adult life, so it makes me really happy to see her making headlines again in recent times (and not only in a cringe-worthy way either). New mixtape, BET Award nomination as best female hip-hop artist, Puff Daddy’s Bad Boy Reunion Tour coming up – hate it or love it, Kimmy Blanco has proven time and again that she has real staying power. Speaking of stamina (cough, cough): we can all use a nice boost of confidence every now and then – especially right before a date, whether we’re experienced serial daters or prefer the occasional tête-à-tête. Made plans to hook up with that hot guy on Grindr but you’re feeling a little meh today? Worry no more, these X-rated bops courtesy of the Queen Bee will get you right in your ratchet!

1. “Big Momma Thang” feat. Jay Z & Lil’ Cease

from the album Hard Core (1996)

“I used to be scared of the dick / Now I throw lips to the shit / Handle it like a real bitch” – with these few lines there’s basically already ’nuff said. If that’s not a gay anthem, then I don’t know what is! In 2013, Complex included “Big Momma Thang” in their “100 Best Opening Lines in Rap History” list – and rightfully so, because sex in rap doesn’t get more iconic than this. “You got it goin’ on, wha wha!”

2. “She Don’t Love You”

from the album The Notorious K.I.M. (2000)

When the situation is heating up between you and your date, just remember this song and you’ll wanna do things you never thought possible. Let your inhibitions go! Kim raps about taking it in the butt as if it were a piece of cake, when we all know it can be a bitch sometimes. But so can you! I remember listening to the Notorious K.I.M. album on my portable CD player as an innocent teenager (yep, I’m that old) on my way to a date to boost my confidence, and it always worked like a charm. Also, “She Don’t Love You” embodies that competitive aspect that clearly plays a role in how we hook up on dating apps nowadays. Why should that hot stud pick you and not the next guy? Because you’re a freak, that’s why! Rawwrrr!

3. “Magic Stick” feat. 50 Cent

from the album La Bella Mafia (2003)

Bet you saw this one coming, didn’t cha? This Grammy-nominated and more than raunchy duet between two hip-hop stars on the height of their popularity proved to be a massive hit, making it all the way up to number 2 on the US Hot 100 – and without the help of a music video, which was never realized due to a falling out between the two rappers. Fiddy and Kimmy explicitly boasting about the proficiency of their respective sexual organs is something to internalize. Because who slays in the sheets? You do!

4. “Kitty Box”

from the album The Naked Truth (2005)

This lascivious pussy anthem is obviously one for the bottoms among you and it’s still one of Kim’s own professed favorites from her fourth studio set The Naked Truth (remember, the only female rap album to ever get a five mic rating from The Source?). Sleazy and sensual, with the distinctive riff borrowed from Shocking Blue’s 1969 song “Love Buzz”, “Kitty Box” should definitely be a staple in your bedroom playlist.

5. “#Mine” feat. Kevin Gates

from the mixtape Lil Kim Season (2016)

Late Kim is no less freaky than 90s or early 2000s Kim. Case in point: “#Mine”, released as a single in February and later included on Kim’s fourth mixtape Lil Kim Season. While her recent forays into current hip-hop trends such as trap might not have been crowned with much commercial success, this ‘gangsta’ duet with up-and-coming Southern rap star Kevin Gates is a good reminder of how Lil’ Kim was once instrumental in bringing sexual liberation to hip-hop music. And that maybe, just maybe, we can all still learn a thing or two from her in that department. Now go and get your freak on!